The Queen of My Self

Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife

Millions of women are now entering or in the midst of midlife. With unprecedented freedom, education, longevity, and wealth, they hold positions of unheard of responsibility and stature. No longer Maidens, nor Mothers, and not yet old Crones, the question arises: Where do these dynamic, accomplished middle-aged women fit into the traditional description of the three stages of womanhood?

In The Queen of My Self, I propose a completely original paradigm — that of the midlife Queen, a woman in her prime who has achieved wisdom, mastery, and self-esteem — that reflects more accurately the realities and needs of women today. 

The Queen of Myself draws on history, mythology, and literature, my own life experience, as well as stories from women in many different societies, situations and stations to provide upbeat, practical, and ceremonial inspiration for all women who want to enjoy the fruits of an influential, passionate, and powerful maturity. 

Some inspiration for you: listen to my recent radio interview - Claiming Our Power and Using It.

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Finally, an archetype of midlife power and maturity that I can relate to — The Queen. Thank you Donna for providing this much-needed missing piece of women's wisdom.  

— Christiane Northrup, M.D. Author of Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom and The Wisdom of Menopause


Workshops & Presentations

Keynotes: Have Crown, Will Travel!

The Queen of Myself presentations offer inspiration for living with Purpose, Passion, and Power. My dynamic interactive presentations generate enthusiasm and spirited resolve in audiences both large and small.

I have a special interest in working with women, particularly those in midlife, on issues of positive aging, achieving goals, personal empowerment, and maximizing potential. But women of all ages, as well as men, can benefit from my down-to-earth approach to spirituality and universal archetypal wisdom.

Each presentation is personalized and geared to the unique needs of the client. I will work with you to create the perfect program for your audience.

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To discuss booking a reading, presentation or workshop in your area, contact me by email or call me at 718-857-1343.

For information on other types of speaking engagements, or to download a printable brochure, visit Speaking & Workshops.

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Throngs of female Baby Boomers are now entering midlife. We are unique in history for our freedom, education, longevity and wealth. We hold positions of unheard of responsibility and stature. We are no longer Maidens, nor Mothers, and not yet old Crones. So where do we fit in the spectrum of women's lives? 

We are poised on the brink of a new, exciting, and as yet uncharted, stage of life. We are pumped and primed for personal sovereignty. Make way for the Queen —the new inspirational archetype for Women of Power. 

Come and join your spirit with other incredible, mature, accomplished women. Meet and celebrate the Queen in yourself as we share a spirited and profound mythological, philosophical and ritual exchange. 

In a ceremonial counsel of encouragement and support, we will summon, name, and claim the wealth of our experience, our resources, and our best intentions. We will drum up the passions to fuel our potent midlife transition and chant for the persistence to maintain it. Our gathering will culminate with a Royal Coronation Ceremony wherein we will crown ourselves our own power and authority. 

Turn Your Midlife Crisis Into Your Crowning Achievement!  The Queen is the earthly ruler of all Her domains. Preeminent, She is capable, accomplished, assured, respected, and in charge. Passionate and compassionate, She is an active woman of the world. The scope of Her natural abilities is vast and Her influence enormous. 

The Queen accepts and initiates personal response-ability for circumstances and conditions in ever-expanding circles. The chief dispenser of order, measure, justice, and right relationship in all realms, Her rule is informed by Her keen cosmic perspective as well as the heart-felt promptings of Her own intuition. She reigns supreme by virtue of Her great virtue. 

Today, just as the accumulative damage to our Earth is reaching a perilous point of no return and our entire natural and cultural environment is in the throes of dangerous disconnection and dis-ease, we Women of a Certain Age are called upon to ascend the throne of conscious and conscientious leadership and exercise our special Queenly powers to redeem and transform ourselves, our society and our planet.

Long Live The Queens! May We Rule In A Peaceful World! 

*As for age. If you feel like you are on the cusp of becoming the Queen of Your Self, then you are! We Queens have visions to create, projects to develop, communities to organize, a country to run, and a planet ot protect.


Mama Donna is a powerful force behind women’s inspiration and empowerment. She's just a ball of fire — impossible to put into words. She's got an amazing talent for bringing a group together; for embracing each individual's uniqueness, and making everyone feel empowered and important. It was transformational for me to define my midlife and celebrate where I've been and where I'm going.

—Maureen, Waupaca, WI

Presentation Topics

The Queen of My Self

Seasons, Cycles and Celebrations

Seasons, Cycles and Celebrations

Finding Meaning, Moxie and Majesty in Midlife and Beyond

Seasons, Cycles and Celebrations

Seasons, Cycles and Celebrations

Seasons, Cycles and Celebrations

Creating Community Through Ritual

Empowerment for Positive Change

Seasons, Cycles and Celebrations

Staying Centered in Stress, Storm, and Chaos

Exercising Environmental Response-Ability

Staying Centered in Stress, Storm, and Chaos

Staying Centered in Stress, Storm, and Chaos

Staying Centered in Stress, Storm, and Chaos

Strategies for Well-Being Under Pressure

Psychic Safe-Keeping

Staying Centered in Stress, Storm, and Chaos

Psychic Safe-Keeping

Dealing with Energy-Depleting People, Places, & Predicaments

Empress Energy

Staying Centered in Stress, Storm, and Chaos

Psychic Safe-Keeping

Owning and Using Our Power

Consult the Midlife Midwife™


Practical and ceremonial guidance for women who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity.

The transition from Maiden and Mother to Queen can be a difficult one, fraught with hard lessons and lots of loss. It takes great determination and courage to confront and embrace the changes brought about by the midlife passage.

It can be of immense value during this daunting time to have the inspiration, advice and encouragement of a counselor/coach/mentor — someone who has been there and done that and is ready to assist you to do the same. It would be my honor to help you make this journey.

During our time together we will develop practical and ceremonial strategies that will empower you to:

  • Reevaluate your preconceived notions and old patterns
  • Reclaim your deepest-held dreams, desires, and ideals
  • Reinvigorate your goals so that you can fulfill your potential
  • Redraw the roadmap of your life’s path
  • Renounce your resistance and impasse
  • Recharge your passion for life and living
  • Rejoice in your own beauty and strength and
  • Step into the sovereignty of your own life

With intention, focus, and an experienced guide, this intense process can become an exhilarating adventure that leads you from confusion to actualization, from crisis to resolution, from doubt to resolve, from fear to fortitude, from lack of self-esteem to evolved, life-affirming spirited strength and self-determination.

Sessions are personalized and geared to the unique individual needs of each client. I create a warm, compassionate, light-hearted, and supportive environment to enable your journey of self-discovery.

My unique approach is based on my extensive knowledge of ancient spiritual wisdom and shamanic healing practices from cultures around the world including intuitive counseling, old wives’ wisdom, breathing techniques, Reiki, multicultural mythology, archetype and symbol, tarot, astronomy, and ritual.

These modalities address the wellness of body, mind, and spirit as a totality. 

They also remind us that body, mind, and spirit are connected, and that each person is also connected to the community of humankind, to all living things, and to the Earth Herself. 

When you retune your alignment to the universal cycles of nature as well as the internal seasons of your life, you are connected to the cosmic power of all possibility.

It is never too late to be who you might have been. —George Eliot


Individual Consultation Services

I have come into some great breakthroughs in mental blocks, for which I'm holding you personally responsible! I learned many things about myself that will be helpful in my daily life.
—Chloe, Oakland, CA


Ever since I first introduced The Queen as a helpful archetype for midlife women, I have received hundreds of requests for detailed instructions on how to become a Queen.

"Dear Mama Donna," women would write, "I want to be a Queen, too. How do I access my power? How can I feel good about myself? How do I change my life? How do I find magic and spiritual wisdom? How do I know what to do? How do I learn how to rule?"

The reality is that I cannot possibly know how anyone else will attain her Queendom, I only know how I came into mine, and that is largely through hindsight. The truth, my truth, at least, is that there is no one true truth. We must each find our own way in this world.

As a shaman, I teach through example, but not through dictum. I can and do offer information, exposure, personal experience, encouragement, inspiration, suggestions and support to my constituents, but I cannot - dare not - pass judgment or establish rules and laws. It is simply not for me to say.

When you come to me for help and spiritual guidance, I listen to your concerns and embrace your needs. I pat you on the back, give you a good, swift kick in the butt, or let you cry on my shoulder, as needed. I can tell you what I did in such and such situation, how I did it, what I learned from this or that lesson, but I cannot tell you what you should do. How do I know what your soul needs?

Only you know what you know. I can, of course, aid you in reaching into the well of your own deepest wisdom, and help you to hear the messages from your best inner Selves. And I can offer tools and practices to help you develop the confidence to follow your own purpose, path, passion and power.

A woman who I have been working with recently told me that I had changed her life. "Well, no, of course, I didn't, honey," I assured her. "You changed your own life." The fact of the matter remains that I could not give her what was not already hers.


Do you really want to look back on your life and see how wonderful it could have been had you not been afraid to live it?
— Caroline Myss